You don't have a soul mate.

Prom season is in the air.  It makes me think a lot about the two proms I went to with my girlfriend Rachel...whom I later got to marry.

I got a chance to talk a bit at QuarterLife last week.  It's our church's young adult community.  Here is a bit of what I said:

1 Corinthians 7:1-9 and Proverbs 31 are sections of scripture that give guidelines and principles in choosing a mate.  What I deduce from that is that there is no Biblical basis for a soul mate.  There are sections in scripture that give us guidelines which suggests that we have some decision making. It's not about finding that one true love.  What the Bible does talk a lot about is commitment. Weathering storms.  Unconditional love and acceptance.  Offering each other grace.  

I wonder if some young adults are a bit incapacitated in decision making about their future because they are so fearful of making the wrong decision.  What if it's not a right or wrong decision, but a wise or unwise decision.  Make a wise decision and then work really hard and fight for a good marriage.

So no...I don't think my wife is my soul mate.  But I am madly in love with her.  And I plan on having hundreds of more "proms" in the years to come!

Comments

[Kristin Eldridge]

Matt Chandler did a good sermon on marriage and mentioned the whole "you don't have a soul mate" thing. It was really good.